Finding Maturity
To be honest, I have been seeking ways on how to be more mature in life. I remember two instances where I did this, the first one was that time when some of my college friends told me (through an FB post/letter) to act my age as a college-aged student and therefore, I had to get rid of the childish stuff such as watching anime, hanging out at Gaia Online and playing zOMG! And trading them for makeup, reading chick-lit and watching ETC so that I could get my friends back. Obviously, this fell flat as I discovered that these things weren't for me (well, except the makeup part) and because my clannies told me that I did not have to leave those things behind just to be mature and I got my friends back anyway so there's that.
The second instance was three years ago, I was wondering how to bounce back after realizing that my immaturity and insecurity was becoming a cause of concern, especially to my supervisor-turned-assistant manager. I only learned about it when my close companion and I were walking back home from Makati Cinema Square. She confronted me about the fact that I was threatening to end my life, I asked her not to talk about these things as it was a Saturday and since I was seeing a counselor during that time, I could just bring that up to her instead. But it failed, and I ended up telling my close companion the reason why it happened, it was because I felt snubbed by my friend (who happens to be in the same department as mine) and felt that she hated me despite the fact that she just said "wait lang" when I was about to tell her something (note: this was a day after my birthday)
Now, while I was Googling ways on how to be mature, I stumbled upon this article (don't worry, the site won't bite) and found out that one of the ways to be mature was through believing in a higher power (read: God) and reading the Bible . Now, I thought to myself, but won't that turn me into a self-righteous, uppity conservative who hates diversity? And therefore, because of my past disdain with Christianity (back then, I thought that they were all self-righteous, judgmental and exclusive) I decided to take some of the advice and disregard the other two.
It was until then, when I started attending Bible Study and Alpha that I saw why following the other two tips would eventually help me in being mature. As you have seen in that article, most of the tips also line up with being a Christian (faith in God, being selfless and of service to others, discipline and etc.) The fruits of the Spirit also line up with the traits of a mature person. Now, I feel enlightened and amused since I was searching far and wide on ways on how to be mature-heck, I was even willing to spend money just to get there. But I realized that God was using all of those circumstances to offer me a better gift than just plain maturity, and that was His love. In a sense, that Dr. Wilson guy was somewhat right, the solution for maturity was not only found in counseling or self-help books, it was just in God and the Bible! And He opened my heart just to realize that.
Now, I admit that I'm still a work in progress-but at least, I don't have to spend ridiculous amounts of money just to get my life in track as I have the greatest life coach and He's always helping me, every step of the way.
The second instance was three years ago, I was wondering how to bounce back after realizing that my immaturity and insecurity was becoming a cause of concern, especially to my supervisor-turned-assistant manager. I only learned about it when my close companion and I were walking back home from Makati Cinema Square. She confronted me about the fact that I was threatening to end my life, I asked her not to talk about these things as it was a Saturday and since I was seeing a counselor during that time, I could just bring that up to her instead. But it failed, and I ended up telling my close companion the reason why it happened, it was because I felt snubbed by my friend (who happens to be in the same department as mine) and felt that she hated me despite the fact that she just said "wait lang" when I was about to tell her something (note: this was a day after my birthday)
Now, while I was Googling ways on how to be mature, I stumbled upon this article (don't worry, the site won't bite) and found out that one of the ways to be mature was through believing in a higher power (read: God) and reading the Bible . Now, I thought to myself, but won't that turn me into a self-righteous, uppity conservative who hates diversity? And therefore, because of my past disdain with Christianity (back then, I thought that they were all self-righteous, judgmental and exclusive) I decided to take some of the advice and disregard the other two.
It was until then, when I started attending Bible Study and Alpha that I saw why following the other two tips would eventually help me in being mature. As you have seen in that article, most of the tips also line up with being a Christian (faith in God, being selfless and of service to others, discipline and etc.) The fruits of the Spirit also line up with the traits of a mature person. Now, I feel enlightened and amused since I was searching far and wide on ways on how to be mature-heck, I was even willing to spend money just to get there. But I realized that God was using all of those circumstances to offer me a better gift than just plain maturity, and that was His love. In a sense, that Dr. Wilson guy was somewhat right, the solution for maturity was not only found in counseling or self-help books, it was just in God and the Bible! And He opened my heart just to realize that.
Now, I admit that I'm still a work in progress-but at least, I don't have to spend ridiculous amounts of money just to get my life in track as I have the greatest life coach and He's always helping me, every step of the way.
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